Restraining Order 911 Ebook

Restraining Order 911

• Serving my country as a Captain in the Marines
• Leading men in combat in the first Gulf War with the 2nd Marine Division, which helped liberate Kuwait City
• Going to Wall Street as a trader and working for the largest investment bank in the world
• Achieving a level of economic success that put me in the top 1% of all wage earners in the country
• Marrying my first wife, and during a seemingly happy sixteen year marriage having four wonderful children

I went through close to 2 years of Restraining Order Hell. Here's how I suffered...

• Based upon a single FALSE ACCUSATION, I was slapped with a fraudulent restraining order where I was subjected to potential criminal prosecution for close to two years until I could prove my innocence. I was under the constant threat of jail if I violated the order in any way. That's right, if you violate a Restraining Order you GO TO JAIL!
  
• After I went through the first hearing, my children were placed on the order without any reason given. That meant that I would not be allowed to visit with them until the date of my next hearing four months later. That tore my insides apart as I was extremely close to my children. Even during the separation, I spoke with my children on the phone every night. I saw them almost every weekend. I fought as hard as I could to object the restraining order. That's' why the Judge showed me what she thought was mercy by allowing me to call my ex's cell phone between 6-8 pm each night.
  
  But my ex never answered her cell phone.
  
  My lawyer wrote my ex's lawyer a letter complaining about the lack of contact and he responded that even though the order said I could call, it did not say she had to answer. I was shocked that a lawyer could be so petty and callous. He knew that my children wanted to speak with me but it was just a game to him.
  
• I went through complete and total embarrassment when I was first served with my fraudulent restraining order as I had two cops come to my door unannounced. They treated me like a piece of dirt as they entered my home and rifled through my belongings looking for weapons without any concern that they were violating my constitutional rights. I felt angry and violated.
  
• My son did not speak to me for 11 months because his mother told him I did not want to see him or buy him anything for Christmas. The first Christmas after my order was issued, my oldest son was asking for a fishing pole for a present. When I asked my lawyer how I should send gifts to my kids, he told me I could not. I was crushed that I could not send them any gifts.
  
  But, I simply could not.
  
  First, it was a violation of the no contact provision that's included in all restraining orders.
  
  Second, if I sent a present to my children, my ex could say there was a threatening message to her included in the package. And, when I tried to explain to my son that I was not allowed to send a gift, my son did not believe me. My ex actually told him that I just did not want to send him a present. I was angry and hurt. I could not believe that my son thought I was lying.
  
• I got frustrated being the only one playing by the rules. I wanted to pull all of my hair out when my ex told all of my children that I did not want to see them. Even though it took me four (4) court hearings to re-establish visitation with them, my ex was telling them that I just did not have time for them. To this day, despite everything I have done to get them back in my life, I am sure they still believe her lies to a certain extent.
  
• I couldn't even be at my son's side during his time of need. One Sunday morning, I receive a phone call that my son was being hospitalized and that he wanted me to come see him. My son was so adamant in the hospital that he wanted to speak with me, I am sure that's the only reason why I was informed. I bet my ex didn't want a mandatory reporter to document that he wasn't permitted to speak with me. In any event, when he told me he was ill I immediately dropped everything and made the 4-hour trip from NJ to Massachusetts.
  
  On my way to the hospital, my former father in-law called me and told me that I was not allowed to come to the hospital. He said that since my ex-wife was there that it would be a violation of the order. I was incensed. I could not believe that my son needed me to be by his side in the hospital and my ex father in-law was telling me I could not be there. In an irrational moment, I told my ex-father in law that not only was I coming but that he had better have enough law enforcement there if he wanted to try to stop me from seeing my son.
  
  When I got to the emergency room, there were three police officers waiting there for me. They told me that my ex had left the building for 20 minutes and that if I was still there when she got back they would arrest me.
  
  They looked like they would have enjoyed it.
  
• The court prevented me from seeing my children for almost a year. My children were moved to another state against my wishes and I was forced to move away from all of my friends and family to pursue my case for custody. When I finally won the right to see my children, it could only happen under the watchful eye of a visitation supervisor in a sterile government facility for two hours every two weeks.

Here Are Just 4 Of The 13 Ulterior Motives My Ex Had
For Seeking A Protective Order Against Me:

• To keep me from my children as a cruel punishment.
• To quickly get custody of my children without a hearing. Yes, this is possible and you won't get your children back if you don't know what to do.
• To control and manipulate me.
• To enjoy watching me suffer.

I could go on - in fact you probably can't imagine nine things worse than these - but trust me, it happened to me as you'll see in Restraining Order 911.

Needless to say, she accomplished every one of her objectives. I suffered for close to 20 months until I was able to gather enough evidence to prove my innocence.

So, how did I clear my name?
I'm not going to lie to you. I'm going to tell point blank -- it wasn't easy. When I was first served with the restraining order, I was scared and confused. I had no idea how the system worked. All I knew was if I tried to see or contact my kids that I'd go to jail. When I asked my lawyer (who I was paying $350 an hour) questions, he refused to answer me. He actually told me, "I'm not here to give you a legal education." At that moment, I knew I had to take control over my own destiny and take action.

So I fired my lawyer. And, I had to keep finding and firing lawyers. Eventually I was fortunate enough to find another lawyer who did answer my questions. While the other lawyers were part of the "Divorce Industry," my new one turned out to be one in a million! Not only did he stay with me through 4 hearings and an appeal until I could prove my innocence, he also taught me the tips I share in Restraining Order 911.

Here Is What You Will Find in Restraining Order 911:

• 8 reasons why sitting back & letting your lawyer handle your divorce case is the BIGGEST MISTAKE you can make -- Lawyers and social workers make this process out to be black magic whereby you need their expert guidance to get through it. This is simply not true. Everything you need to know to beat any false restraining order can be found in this simple, easy-to-understand eBook.
• How to stay in charge of your divorce case by limiting the roles of lawyers, mediators, and other professionals.
• Information culled from my own real-life experiences that will walk you through the emotional, legal, and economic realities of a difficult divorce.
• The consequences of temporary restraining orders.
• The most important way to protect yourself and your children against a false restraining order! Many defendants lose their case before they even begin because they fail to abide by this rule.
• Ten things you need to do immediately to stay out of jail.
• Insider secrets that most people do not know. They are not even found in legal books that are held in a law library. These tips have been developed by an experienced attorney who has fought these orders for many years in court and knows exactly what to do to give you a fighting chance.
• The #1 violation that will send you to jail and jeopardize your case. Violation of a restraining order is a criminal matter, punishable by a fine and a jail term. Even though restraining orders are civil matters which involves conflicts between two people, violations of them are criminal matters, meaning the state will prosecute a violator.
• How you can be lulled into a false sense of security and find yourself handcuffed in the back of a police car the moment your ex-wife gets mad at you again.
• 3 Traps many women set to ruin your life out of revenge.
• How to represent yourself and be prepared using vital information on the laws, statutes, and methods of research available to everyone-not just attorneys!
• The most important key legal definitions you need in order to knock the restraining order out of the box before it is even issued.
• 4 sources to obtain information about the laws that pertain to restraining orders in your particular state.
• What is the most important part of any law pertained to your case. In many cases, the complaining party is charging something that may not be against the law, or fit the legal definition of fear as defined by the law.
• Where you should look to see if your particular statute has changed.
• The easiest way to find out what changes have been made by courts.
• How to be prepared when your lawyer or the Judge asks a question. You will have the answer right in front of you!
• How to get the documented proof you need to leave your soon-to-be or ex-spouse unprepared